U - Love Does Unconditional

 “I really don’t like you right now! I still love you, but I don’t like you.” I remember overhearing my then 4-year-old say this to one of his siblings. It made me chuckle, but I also thought it was a simple but good explanation of unconditional love. 

Unconditional love is quite literally love without conditions. It’s love that has no strings attached. It’s loving our children despite their flaws and regardless of how they perform or what they achieve. 

However - and this is so important to understand - unconditional love does not mean always giving our children what they want or accepting what they do.  Instead, it is a mature type of love that means treating them with care and respect, *even while* setting boundaries and maintaining limits.


Research cited in a post on foundationforlearning.com (link below) shows many ways that unconditional love benefits our children, including their mental and physical health, brain development, and sense of security. But unconditional love does not always come naturally or easily, even to us as parents and teachers. An article on goalcast.com (link below) gives three actions we can take to ensure the kids in our homes and classrooms feel loved unconditionally. 

  1. Love them even when they show their flaws
  2. Offer unlimited support
  3. Work to understand their perspective 

As loving parents and teachers, we would do well to heed Mother Teresa’s instructions. Our children are often “unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway.”







Foundation For Learning


Goal Cast


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